ABC’s The Bachelor seems like just another scripted reality show that I do not watch, however, I almost always tune into the finale’-which also often comes off as scripted, but very entertaining.
Arie (The Bachelor) chose Becca and proposed-instead of choosing Lauren, who I thought was the obvious choice. The dramatic part came when Arie decided to change his mind…break up with Becca and choose Lauren (if she will still have him). The cameras never stopped rolling as Arie made the dramatic switch, which caused him to not only become heart breaker of the year to Becca, social media went off on him as well. In spite of that, I understood and agreed with his decision.
Don’t get me wrong, if Arie had doubts or wasn’t sure, he should not have proposed. However, I am a firm believer in not settling and following your heart. If he had stayed with his decision, he always be one foot in, one foot out-consistently dreaming of what ‘might have been’. Would you want someone to stay with you, knowing they are in love with someone else? How can you be intimate and lay and wake up with someone who is not 100%-even 90% into you?
Still, there are two more sides to this story…how and when do you confess to Becca-that you made a mistake?! There’s no easy way to break news such as this. Arie is going to devastate her no matter how gentle or kind he says it. Then there’s Lauren. Will she even take him back after he didn’t choose her in the first place, live on national television?? That is the risk Arie decided to take..and I can’t say I would not have done the same.
Always, follow your heart and desires, I am known for quoting “This isn’t dress rehearsal”-we only get one time, “one shot” as Eminem would say. Many may not agree and certainly did NOT agree with Arie’s decision, but let’s not forget, he has to do what’s best for him…even if risking it all means he winds up alone.
There is a silver lining; The Bachelor always chooses a woman for their sister reality show, The Bachelorette. It was no surprise Becca will be the chosen one, which is great because she has another chance at love. She will then be in the same position Arie once was and may find out,it not as easy as it looks. When we date, some of us choose one mate at a time while others may date up to three, but how many of us get to stand outside in a beautiful yard, and watch sexy, handsome and beautiful mate after mate hop out of a limo, all wanting to please us?
By the way, lauren did take Arie back and so far, they are still going strong (Arie proposed to Lauren During The Bachelor finale’).Welp, as the saying goes, “All is far in love and war.”
The next season of The Bachelorette airs on ABC, May 28th.